Has a Leo man been making it hard for you?
Leo men tend to be a bit on the inconsiderate side.
After all, they are born leaders and love to give orders and make decisions.
And as it turns out, one of the things that Leo men most often don’t consider when deciding is how their actions might affect those around them — or you in this case.
Here’s the big problem with Leo men: they don’t understand how awful it feels to be hurt.
Leo men are good at giving orders, but they’re terrible at listening to others when they’re not getting their way.
One way to make them listen is by making them feel guilty.
Here’s how to make a Leo man feel guilty for hurting you.
1) Get upset and angry
This is probably the most surefire way to make a Leo man feel bad when he hurts you.
Like it or not, guilt and anger are similar emotions, so once you feel angry at him, he’ll likely become guilty and even self-deprecating.
This might seem manipulative to you.
But, believe me — it works!
Leo men don’t typically feel too guilty when they hurt you because they’re able to justify their actions by telling themselves that it wasn’t intentional.
But, if you let them see that their actions have hurt you and are making you feel terrible, he might start feeling bad for hurting you.
This is made even more effective if you show a genuinely emotional side when doing so — it will make him feel even worse.
Ask yourself — does he know that you’re hurt?
Is he aware of what he’s done or said that has hurt your feelings?
If the answer is no, then make sure that you express it to him.
Even if it was unintentional, there’s nothing wrong with letting a man know when his actions hurt others.
Just let it all out and watch how quickly he will start feeling guilty, and you’ll be able to finish him off really quickly.
2) Call his big ego out
You’ve already made him feel terrible by getting angry, so now it’s time to turn the tables.
Remember that Leo men have big egos and are prideful about their accomplishments?
So, now it’s time to call that ego out.
Leo men are often afraid that their ego will be damaged if they feel bad.
And when you call it out and make him feel guilty for hurting you, he’ll start questioning himself and feeling a lot of shame for putting your feelings before his own.
The more he feels guilt, the more likely he is to listen and change his behaviour.
Tell him how his actions have hurt you, and then follow up by saying: “Who do you think you are?”
If you don’t feel like getting upset, just show some emotion when calling out his ego with a good dose of sarcasm and humour.
Not only will this catch him off guard, but he’ll begin defending himself and ultimately realise that he’s made a mistake.
Leo men like to tell others what to do, but they don’t like to be told what to do — make sure that you call that out.
Be careful though.
This isn’t an attack, it’s a gentle reminder.
But, once you remind him of it, Leo men will almost always start feeling guilty for their actions and go down in their own estimation.
3) Hold him accountable
Leo men are naturally very self-assured and think that they can get away with everything.
They are also quite prideful about their actions.
They like to think of themselves as great guys who always do the right thing, but as we all know, that’s not always true.
But, you already called his ego out and made him feel guilty, so it’s time to show him that he’s wrong.
If you want him to change his behaviour, this is the best way to do it.
You can tell him how he hurt your feelings by holding him accountable for his actions.
Then show how you’re going to deal with it, which will remind Leo men of their limitations as leaders and make them feel even worse about hurting you.
So, when you start holding him accountable for his actions — he will feel bad about himself and start questioning his own behaviour.
This is a very simple technique.
Just hold him accountable for his actions and ask him why he did that to you.
Make it a very direct question, and keep repeating it over and over again until he feels bad about himself.
And I promise you — he will feel bad about himself.
After that, you can tell him how he can fix it and make it better, which I’ll elaborate on in my next point.
4) Point out how easily he can fix the situation
Leo men don’t like to feel like they’re slacking off.
They want to be the best and are always striving to achieve the perfect career, relationship and life.
And when they do something wrong, they want to fix it right away.
If you let them know that it’s easy for them to fix their mistake, then it’s bound to make them feel guilty for not doing so.
So, tell him that he can easily fix his mistake and make it better by apologising quickly, admitting what he did wrong and promising never to do it again.
If you want, you can even make a long list with all the things he needs to do better and help him out with that.
Yes, a list.
Just make sure that your list isn’t too long or Leo men might lose interest and not listen to you anymore.
But, if you do this correctly, your list will show him that he needs to change his behaviour in order to make things right.
And once he realises that, he’ll be more likely to listen to what you have to say and avoid hurting you again.
5) Take away their power
They want to keep the power and make sure that nobody puts them in their place.
And when you start taking away their power, it will make them feel powerless and guilty, because they want to feel in control.
What’s more, it shows that you have the power to do that.
Leo men are very prideful so they will definitely think that you’re trying to embarrass them.
But, on the inside, you’re actually trying to show them how easily you can take away their power and make them feel powerless.
It’s a great way to make them feel guilty and ashamed of themselves.
One simple way of doing this is by putting yourself higher than him and making him feel bad about himself.
You can do that by looking down on him, criticising his actions and giving him orders.
But, make sure that you do it in a smart, passive way.
Don’t start taking away their power without explaining it to them, otherwise they’ll become even more defensive because they won’t understand what’s going on.
So, explain to them why you’re doing this and what you want to achieve with it.
Tell them that you want him to realize how he’s acted and make him feel better about himself.
Everyone wants to feel good about themselves, so if he feels better about himself, then he won’t hurt your feelings anymore.
6) Talk about his past mistakes
Flawless and perfect.
That’s what Leo men think about themselves.
However, that’s simply not true.
They make mistakes all the time just like the rest of us.
Letting them know that their past mistakes will make them guilty because they don’t like to be reminded of their mistakes.
So, tell them about all the things that they’ve done wrong in the past and how it hurts your feelings.
Talk about it like it’s a bad memory for them and make sure to ask him if he remembers doing that to you.
It’s not necessary to get into the details — all you have to do is remind him that it happened before and how much it made you feel terrible.
But be prepared — he might not like what you have to say, which is fine because it might make him feel even worse about hurting you.
I’ll explain more in my next point.
7) Own your emotions
When you start pointing out what they’ve done wrong, they’re going to become defensive because they don’t want you talking about them without their consent.
They will start defending themselves and act like everything is fine when actually it’s not.
To stop that from happening, own your emotions.
There are two categories of emotions — defensive emotions and offensive emotions.
Defensive emotions are used to protect yourself and prevent other people from attacking your weak points.
Offensive emotions, on the other hand, are used to attack other people’s weak points and make them feel bad about themselves.
Leo men like to use defensive emotions because they want to be the ones in charge of the situation.
They hate when someone else is trying to control them, so they will try to use their offensive emotions as a counter-attack.
And that’s when you start owning your defensive emotions and tell them how you feel about their actions.
Tell them that what they did hurt your feelings, but you’re trying to make it better by owning up to your feelings and admitting that it hurt you in a sensitive way.
8) Tell him that he doesn’t need to hide his feelings
When you use the “Upside Down Technique,” Leo men will become more defensive and make themselves look like they’re in control of everything.
But in reality, they’re not — they’re just trying to hide their feelings from you, which is why it’s important to tell them that they don’t need to hide anything.
This will make them feel bad about themselves because it makes them look like a child who’s trying to defend himself against an older adult.
And nobody likes that feeling.
This is another great way to make him feel guilty and ashamed of himself, which is exactly what you want.
And if he isn’t doing anything wrong, then there’s no need for him to hide his thoughts.
So, tell him that it’s okay to share his feelings and thoughts with you and ask him what he wants to talk about.
But, make sure that you respect his boundaries by not bringing up certain subjects or questions that might offend him.
Otherwise, he’ll become defensive again and tell you how unfair you are.
9) Give them a scope
When you’re trying to make Leo men feel guilty about something, there’s a big chance that they will deny that they’ve done anything wrong.
So, make sure to give them a scope of possibilities where they don’t have to admit anything or tell you what they’re thinking.
For example, ask them if there’s any way that you could’ve misinterpreted their behaviour and ask what was going on in their head at the time.
Tell them about the situation and ask for their opinion.
If they are truly innocent, they will tell you that they didn’t do anything wrong and that you’ve misunderstood everything.
But, if they’re lying, then they will deny everything and get defensive because it triggers the other emotions of guilt and shame.
It’s very important to understand that Leo men are very stubborn and they don’t change easily.
So, don’t just give up on him when you realise that he’s not going to change, because it might make him more defensive.
All of these techniques that we talked about will work.
The key is to use them in the RIGHT way.
Don’t rush things.
Use every technique one at a time and combine them so they become even more effective when working together.
But, remember, it’s important for you to:-
- Not beg or plead
- Not whine about how badly their actions affected you
- Not apologise for expressing your feelings or for needing their attention
The last thing you want is to make them feel NOT guilty.